I was standing in my black bathrobe with sopping wet, just-showered hair hanging down my back, waiting for my coffee to finish brewing, when my 4-year-old daughter said out of no where, “Mom! You’re the cutest one in our family!”
She was gazing at me starry-eyed. Like I was a Disney princess. (And not a Disney villain like Cruella DeVille, which is really who I am sure I looked like.)
“What did you say?” I asked, unsure my un-caffeinated brain heard her right.
“I said, ‘Mom, you’re the CUTEST one in our family!!'” She said with even more passion this time.
And I laughed!
I couldn’t help but think about how ugly I have felt lately. How I turned 30 this year, and am still trying to love my post-partum body (that got stretched pretty good by my 9 pound, 11 ounce baby boy born in December.) And I thought about how I always wear make-up. To cover the dark circles under my eyes, and the acne that’s been there since high-school. And how I often don’t feel very beautiful at all. I’ve even been tempted lately to stop at the local tanning joint, “Sun Your Buns,” to tan this skin, I don’t always feel pretty in.
But before I could think through any more of my many insecurities, she interrupted:
“I love how God made you,” she said.
I love how God made you.
I looked at her. Her big, blue eyes looking deeply into my brown ones. Her blonde bedhead spilling into her beautiful face. Her gaze, not leaving me.
“I love how God made you.”
Her words echoed. In my thirsty heart.
And, I knew she meant it. With all of her little heart.
Her heart that is often bigger than I realize.
I bent down, all undone. In my bathrobe and wet, tangled hair and held her little body against mine.
“Thank you,” I whispered, with our foreheads touching.
“But,” I assured her, “I think YOU are the cutest one in our family!” Then I tickled her and she giggled. And I said, “I love how God made you!” She smiled and wrapped her little body around mine. And we stayed like that for a moment. Wrapped in love.
Wrapped by full acceptance. Wrapped with our beautiful bodies God gave us, around each other.
Both feeling a little more loved. A little more beautiful. Than before.
Do you want to know something?
Selah’s words stayed with me.
I felt “cuter-than-usual” that day.
Because when a 4-year-old boldly declares (when you have no make-up on and look like a drowned rat) that, “You are the cutest one in ourfamily!!”– you just have to choose to believe her.
And it ministers to the deeper parts of you. The ones you try to shove down. And cover up.
And maybe we are all a little more insecure than we like to admit.
Maybe we all feel a little “ugly” sometimes.
And maybe, sometimes, we just need someone, anyone, (even if they’re 4 years old) to say:
“Hey.”
“You’re cute.”
“You’re beautiful.”
“I love how God made you.”
Because beauty comes from Him. You know?
Beauty isn’t something we achieve by working out, or wearing trendy clothes, or dabbing on more make-up.
Beauty is part of our make-up.
It’s a part of us. It’s instilled in us. By the fingerprints of God. When He made us. When He formed us in the womb. In the secret place.
Beauty…is what God makes.
And He made you. Remember?
God created you exactly how He wanted you to be.
For His glory. And He delights in you.
And you are made in His image. To reflect Him, and His beauty.
And maybe no one will tell you today, but, I think…
You’re pretty cute.
And,
I love how God made you.
Now, it’s your turn to spread the beauty. So, pass it on. Stop and tell someone how cute they are. And, “I love how God made you.” And see if, (even if they laugh), if their face does not brighten a bit. And they don’t become a little more beautiful as a result.
#Spreadthebeauty
Sometimes it’s the little things that make us smile the biggest, and usually smiley things come from our children. They don’t know any better than to be honest, which makes it so much more wonderful when they say things like your daughter said to you.
When my youngest was about five, she was snuggling with me on the couch and said, completely out of the blue, “You know what I love about your flab? It makes me feel like a baby kangaroo in the mama’s pouch!”
Suddenly, being thirty pounds overweight didn’t seem like the awful thing I saw it as. Yes, I still wanted and needed to lose that weight, but knowing the silly, innocent comfort it gave my daughter made me laugh hard—she truly thought she was giving me the biggest compliment ever! I can still hear her little voice saying it, and she’s now almost seventeen.
Awe, I just LOVE this story!!